Learn how to give your guy the best blow jobs of his life. It’s not rocket science. If you are sick of all those nicely put, clean Cosmo sex articles – read these 61 refreshing, no-nonsense blow job tips, written by a guy, and make him think you are the Queen of Blowjobs.
Do not read this article if you are not interested in getting RESULTS when it comes to giving blow jobs.
This article is NOT about morality. It does not question whether blow jobs are “good” or “bad,” whether women “should” or “should not” give blowjobs or whether giving them is degrading to women or not. That is not the topic of this article. Its only purpose is to help women that are looking for advice that WORKS. It is designed for women who wish to please their man to the max and make him happy beyond measure in bed. It is an all inclusive guide on how to give a great blowjob. The best. Ever.
If you believe that blow jobs are “degrading,” and “just for sl*ts” then please stop reading now. If adult language and straightforward tips easily offend you and if you have a problem with hearing the truth about blow jobs, then please stop reading now – this article is not for you.
The 61 blowjob tips you will find below are something that the majority of men want in a blow job.
Let’s start with 4 quick “blowjob facts” and then we’ll move on to more practical tips.
Fact #1: Men love blowjobs.
It’s a fact. 99% of men would never say “no” to a blowjob. Except if you have a reputation of using too much teeth.
Fact #2: Most women give bad or no-blowjobs.
The reality is simple: most women are horrible at giving head.
That’s part of the reason why many women simply don’t give BJs; they’re afraid of “messing up” so they just evade doing it. This is counter-productive, since most of the time… any blow job is better than no blow job.
Even if you are terrible at giving head, at least you are trying to improve, and that’s better than hiding from your fear of failure.
Often, a woman’s lack of skills is her own fault, and stems from her lack of initiative to improve. Then again, most men aren’t that good at clearly communicating what they want in a blow job. But let’s not play the blame game here.
Fact #3: Men that receive bad, or no blow jobs at all, cheat more often and are less satisfied with their relationship than guys that get head regularly.
There’s nothing to prove here. If a man doesn’t get the pleasure he desires and believes he deserves, especially if his ex-girlfriend got him used to receiving it, he will expect to get it in the future as well.
Don’t blame him. Blame his ex girlfriend. She messed things up for you.
Seriously, wake up, get real, and stop living in an illusion.: Men cheat because of lack of sexual satisfaction. This is the cold, hard truth and something you have to swallow (pun intended) and accept as an unchangeable part of his biological and sexual needs.
Men compare you to their past relationships and judge you based on their prior experiences. You can be the most amazing and beautiful woman in the world, but if his ex was better in bed (even if she looked like Susan Boyle), you’re in a serious problem – no matter how nice your personality is.
If you don’t give your guy blow jobs at all, he might be wondering what’s he missing out on (a lot), and whether he could get his satisfaction elsewhere. (Hint: he can)
I don’t care if you’re offended or think I’m a sexist pig (read the disclaimer above), every guy on Earth thinks the same – they just don’t say it. If you want reality, read on, and if you want to keep living in a fairy tale – go back to Cosmo.
Fact #4: Researchers at Oxford University have recently proven that women who give great blow jobs can live up to 9.5 years longer than women that give terrible blow jobs or don’t give them what so ever!
Obviously, I just made that up.
But – even though she may not live any longer, a woman that gives awesome blow jobs definitely:
- Has a higher chance of enjoying a life of lust, passion, love and understanding with the man she loves.
- Gets more orgasms: because her man is more than willing to reciprocate
- Can easily persuade her guy to comply with more or less any desire she has, from helping with the kids, housework to bungee jumping and buying that ridiculously overpriced Persian carpet he’d normally never even consider. (More blow jobs, more leverage!)
- Doesn’t have to worry about getting dumped or cheated on
- Has a bigger and higher quality pool of men to choose from
- Is more confident in her ability to satisfy her man and is therefore happier with her life and more comfortable in her own skin
- Dates men “out of her league”
- Has a more committed and loving boyfriend or husband
- And much, much more…
Indirectly, this may actually lead to a more fulfilling and even longer life. “In the end,” as Abraham Lincoln wisely put it “it’s not the years in your life that count. It’s the life in your years.”
As you can see, from any guy’s perspective, amazing blow jobs are… priceless.
I believe that the above-mentioned benefits are a good enough reason to give your guy more and better blow jobs.
So, because your guy really, really wants you to master the art of fellatio, and so you can enjoy all the above-mentioned benefits – I put together these 61 super-awesome blowjob tips for you, so that you too can create miracles with your mouth… and mop the floor with his ex-girlfriends.
1. How About a Blow Job?
The right words are often more powerful than the best blow job techniques. A man’s orgasm happens in his mind; saying what he doesn’t even know he desires to hear can trigger an instant orgasm. That’s why blowjob dirty talk is so important. Ask him “How about a blow job?” and see the instant smile on his face.
Most women are quiet and make an “I’m-working-on-an-important-assignment” face, without saying a single word.
Why so serious? Relax… have fun with it. Nobody expects you to talk while having a penis in your mouth, stop for a second, take a breath… smile… give him a compliment, tell him you’re enjoying yourself, ask him for feedback, or tell him what you want him to do.
The “rule” for blowjob dirty talk is: whatever you say, say it with complete belief.
If you are afraid that what you say will sound too fake or awkward: it will.
Believe in what you say and say it fearlessly, and anything you say will sound great. There’s nothing clean about a blowjob, so don’t try to be classy about it once you are already on your knees.
Never forget that how you say it is more important than what you say. You don’t need “dirty talking lines,” you need playfulness and the confidence to let go of your fear of being looked down upon for talking dirty. He wants you to be slutty, so give yourself permission to cross the line.
Also, know that saying anything is usually better than saying nothing at all. You don’t want him to feel as if you are in your head, thinking, worrying, and giving him the “this-is-rocket-science” serious face. So speak up!
2. Moan (louder)
If you’re not sure what line to throw at him, then at least moan. Then moan some more, and some more.
Moaning creates pleasurable vibrations that make your blow job better in more than one way. Moaning is perfect as a substitute for talking dirty, if you’re still shy about it.
Moaning a lot communicates an important message: I’m… mmm… enjoying myself. And that… is the core of a great blow job.
Don’t expect him to enjoy receiving it if you don’t enjoy giving it.
3. It may be called a blow job, but it’s not a job, if you think it is – that’s why you suck at it
Viewing a blow job as a JOB is the main reason why most women are horrible at blowjobs. Don’t be one of those nasty women.
View blow jobs as a source of ultimate-pleasure for yourself, and that’s exactly what it will become for you.
Of course, you need to find the right guy for this, naturally, for some men it’s simply not worth your “effort,” but for a guy you truly love, it’s only natural that you enjoy pleasuring him in any way he desires.
Find a guy like that. (Then keep him by giving great blow jobs!) You deserve it. Or maybe not, yet. As long as you view blowjobs as a “job” you’ll have a hard time finding Mr. Right, okay – you may find him, but keeping him? That’s a whole other field.
Stop viewing blow jobs with a “what’s in it for me?” way of thinking. Or as a “gift” you are giving him.
Women that give miraculous blowjobs are so good at them because they not only love it, but they also view it as a source of pleasure for them.
They are thankful for the opportunity to get pleasure from it.
4. Look Into His Soul…
Don’t be shy. Your eyes are the windows to your soul. Let him see the passion in your eyes. Your eyes can almost smile up at him.
Let him see pure joy in your eyes. Smile with your eyes. Wink at him when you’ve got him deep.
Don’t worry, you look great from up there. By looking up at him you communicate; you see his reactions to your ‘moves’ and you can adjust your performance. The most important moment for eye contact is the moment he is having an orgasm. That’s when he falls in love.
5. Choose a Good Position
When giving a blowjob you have total power over him. Either he gets complete pleasure or complete pain in case you bite off his manhood.
So even tough you have power, still, a blowjob is a submissive act where you submit to your man’s power. In a way it is your attempt to tame him, a moment where you have his full attention.
Your submission to him is something you should exaggerate because that’s part of the turn on behind a blow job.
Because men are visual… be in a position where he has a nice view of you, and a position where he appears more dominant.
Choose a position in which you are more submissive, down, on your knees, for example, looking up at him from below. When thinking about good position look for good comfort and a good view, in the sense that you are comfortable so that you don’t lose focus and so that he has the feeling of power over you because of your complete submission to him.
6. Change Your Attitude: just “enjoying it” is not enough
Attitude is everything. The right attitude means that you give a blow job for your own pleasure, not his, and that you don’t just “enjoy doing it,” as some magazines will tell you, but that you can not live without having his penis in your mouth.
Or, as Hank Moody put it in Californication, when talking about his girlfriend ”It was as if she were dying of thirst and my c*ck were the fountain of everlasting youth.” Have an attitude like that and you will never have to worry about your blow job technique again.
7. It’s a Marathon, Not a Sprint
Hurrying during a blow job and racing to the finish line won’t make that blow job great.
On the contrary, it will only give an impression that you just want to get it over with and continue with your no-blowjobs policy life. Never make an impression like that because it kills all your previous effort.
Take things slow. Focus on the journey. Enjoy every second of it and forget about the destination.
There IS NO DESTINATION. You don’t want to get anywhere.
There is a practical time and place to speed up a blow job and it’s not now.
Don’t worry about weather too much time has passed since you started. Don’t put time-constraints on your blowjobs. Let it last as long as it lasts.
You are not in a rush. If you get tired too fast that’s because you aren’t using all of your assets.
8. Turn Off Your Mind You Must…
Logic kills emotions.
The two cannot work together, and, in a blow job, there simply is no space for logic.
Emotions, feelings, passion… those should be your guidelines for a great blow job.
Any logical thinking can only “kill” the pleasure and take away your focus.
When you think you are not present, and when you are not present – you are not in the moment – enjoying it – but rather worried about something. “Why didn’t he come yet?” “Am I doing it right?”
You make eye contact, so he will see that your mind is racing away, and once he sees that you are in your mind, worried about something – it’s over. You’ve killed it. Now he’s thinking about what you are thinking, and he can’t relax and enjoy the pleasure you are giving him.
Don’t think. Turn off any logical thinking during a blow job and you’ll instantly see positive effects.
9. Love It So Much That He’s Scared for Your Sanity
Love his [email protected]#k. Love it beyond normal love. Love it more than your best friends, family, your dog, air, water. Love it more than your favorite food after months of starvation.
You need to be hungry. Literally starve for it, need it, like a drug addict needs his or her drug, that’s the way you must need and desire his penis. Without love for his “little friend” or “big fella” you will never give the kind of blowjob every man dreams of.
Believe me, this “addiction” is the best thing you can do for your relationship.
10. Leave No Solider Behind
Amiga, I’m talking about his cojones.
So many women forget about this.
Dare to be different!
There is more to his penis than… his penis. All around that area is sensitive and you have to use all of it to create a “full-package” blow job.
There’s so much you can do with his testicles. Tickle, kiss, gently suck, massage, the list goes on. Just make sure you are gentle and considerate because one wrong move can lead to supreme pain.
11. Use Your Hands (Correctly)
If you think that your mouth is the only “tool” you can use for a great blow job then you are very, very wrong. Imagine you are going to war with a knife while you have a full arsenal of weapons like bazookas, AK-47s and grenades in your trunk. What a waste.
Your hands are the basis of a great blow job. Use oil, lots of it actually, for foreplay purposes. Learn to give hand jobs by taking your time to practice on him.
Give him a hand job and take your time, let him teach you how to satisfy him, where to have a tighter grip and how. Make sure you oil it up!
You can only learn this by practicing, and again, not being in a hurry. Be playful with it. Have fun and take your time. Every man will appreciate your efforts of improving yourself and the best you can do is to be open about it.
12. Believe in Yourself (even if you have to fake it)
Look, nobody expects you to be super-confident about something you are not yet good at.
People are confident about something they are good at, and the only way you can get good is by practicing. The better you get the more confidant you will become and the better your blow jobs will be… until then: fake it.
You know, fake it till you make it.
The worst thing you can do is to be indecisive about your moves, because indecisiveness brings you back into your HEAD. And we don’t want that (Tip #8 Don’t’ Think).
So… until you naturally get confident about your blowjobs by practicing, simply fake your confidence. Wait. Scratch that. You can practice as long as you want, but if you practice the WRONG stuff, you’re just waiting your time (and his patience).
Convincing yourself that what you are doing is the right thing and even though you may be wrong, still, you’ll be sure of your moves and that by itself is a good thing. But you need to back up your confidence with serious blowjob skills (so keep on reading) and avoiding typical mistakes… just a few right moves (and avoiding bad one’s) already puts you way ahead of your competition (his ex girlfriends). If you’re still worried and seriously lack blowjob confidence, I urge you to study the classic manifesto: Jack’s Blowjob Lessons, that alone will super-charge your confidence — quickly.
13. Don’t Bite (too hard)
This is a tip you already know, obviously, nobody wants his penis chopped off by some razor sharp teeth.
But don’t think that teeth can ONLY produce pain, actually, biting his penis can be erotic, but also a bit scary. So, it can also excite him, if you do it playfully.
Just don’t try this if you’re a beginner.
14. Learn from the Masters, Young Padawan
There is a reason porn is a multi-billion dollar industry.
They know what sells. And there’s a reason why it sells, because that’s what the “market” of men are looking for. That’s what makes them hard.
So start watching porn and see how and what the pros are doing.
Copy what you like.
15. Smile, Mona Lisa
Again, it’s not about techniques, but about what you communicate to your guy during a blow job.
Of course, you can’t smile while having him in your mouth, but what you can do is stop for a second, take a breath, say something kinky, then smile… the point is that you communicate a simple message “I like what I’m doing” … you are there because you want to be there, not because you’re just doing him a favor and “he should be thankful he got any.”
A negative, bitchy attitude like that won’t get you far. Communicate the right message and the orgasm will start in his mind, not his penis.
16. “Practice, baby, practice!”
I’ve read somewhere (I think Malcolm Gladwell first mentioned it in his book Outliers) that you need about 10 000 hours of doing something to master it, any skill.
I doubt that you need 10 000 hours of blow jobs to become great at them.
With the right information, you can progress quickly. Unlearning what you are doing wrong is a longer process than learning from scratch.
What’s important is that you understand that nobody expects you to born with awesome blow jobs skills. It takes time and practice.
You know the story when a tourist asked a street musician “Excuse me, do you know how do I get to Carnegie Hall?” … “Practice, baby, practice!”
It’s natural to be a beginner at anything and it takes time, practice and dedication to get good at it.
Find a guy that you truly like so you are naturally motivated to make him happy and practicing on him will be fun.
Don’t be afraid of failure or doing things wrong, every sane guy will appreciate your efforts of improving and “practicing on him” 😉 Just view it as a challenge.
17. Look Better (don’t be lazy)
Yeah, I’m shallow. But that doesn’t change the fact that you’re overweight.
Sure, you can look like a supermodel, but if your blow job skills are bad, you won’t get far. But still, men are visual.
The better you look the more attractive you are to him and this simply adds to the physical and psychological pleasure you are giving him. View it as an extra. All else being equal (sex skills, personality, compatibility etc.) how hot (or not) you are is what makes the final difference.
And let’s be real here… there are no ugly people. Just lazy or poor. Today, anyone can look good. Unless you’re born with a third arm or something.
Really, it’s not a science. Don’t eat crap, exercise (squats!) and make more moolah. And bam! You’re smoking hot.
Other than that… sex up your style.
Discover his fetish. Nice bras, corsets, fishnets, G-strings, high-heels, or spandex he can rip apart – also, whatever makes you feel sexier.
This is a rule: You can’t be sexy for him if you don’t feel sexy about yourself. So don’t work on your looks because of him, do it for yourself.
18. Tease to Please
Tease, but don’t overtease.
Be playful. Take your time and give him longer and slower licks and kisses. The point is that you have fun all the time during a blow job.
Don’t jump into action right away, it’s should be a fun game, not a race to get a “job” done.
Add playfulness to your blow jobs and cut out the dull, scientific-like seriousness by teasing him, giggling, taking your time and helping him mentally relax and get into the mood.
Put some temptation into the game before you jump into the real stuff. Bite his shaft for fun to tease him (as if you’ll bite it off) and see how he’ll get rock hard in an instant.
19. Play Games
Have fun and play some games… Role-play isn’t just for sex, you can do it for blowjobs too.
Bring some props, pour chocolate sauce all over him, lick it off of him. Keep it fresh.
Don’t forget that too much of a good thing can become a bad thing after some time simply because it’s not scarce anymore.
This doesn’t imply that you should give him a blow job once a year. Hell no. But also not every hour. Find a balance and stay playful and creative about your blowjobs.
Know when it’s not the right moment for a blow job and when it is.
There’s no point in having everything planned out, there’s nothing exciting happening then that you didn’t expect.
Surprise him from time to time with an “out of a sudden” blow job when he least expects it. It shows you care. Never wait for him to ask for a blow job, that’s just lame. Take initiative. This alone will already set you apart from other women.
Remember, you don’t have to give the best blow jobs in the world, just better than anything he’s experienced thus far.
21. Go Deep or Go Home
Warren Buffett, the greatest investor of all time said “The best investment you can make is an investment in yourself.” Amen to that.
If there’s one sex skill you should invest in, then that’s learning how to deep-throat.
Set yourself apart from other women luring over your guy by being unique in this rare skill. One in 10 women give great blow jobs, and that one can usually deep-throat with ease.
Knowing how to deep throat shows your dedication to learn something completely and go through a doze of, let’s say pain, but more precisely discomfort, to learn something priceless and get to a stage where it’s not uncomfortable at all anymore.
With enough willpower you can master anything, even deep throating and killing your gag reflex. Once you can do that, your guy will never, ever desire another woman’s mouth in his life.
When it comes to deep throating: you have to believe in yourself. You can do whatever you believe you can or can’t.
Simply stop being a quitter and giving up every time you try to take him in deeper. Focus on relaxing your gag reflex and pushing through it. Push your tongue out, go a bit deeper and then hold it there for as long as you can until you get more and more comfortable with it. Be in a position where you control the movement so he doesn’t try to thrust deeper himself.
Believe you are great at giving blow jobs and you will be with more time and practice, but start by believing in yourself and adding a dose of confidence to everything you do. Every suck, kiss, lick and look needs to be more secure.
22. A Brazilian is Not Just for Women Anymore
Stopping every minute to take hair off your tongue or from between your teeth is horribly annoying not just to him but of course to you as well. It kills your momentum.
Make him shave both his bush and his balls so that it’s a more welcoming place for you.
It’s a simple trade-off. He shaves, and thus you enjoy giving him blow jobs more and you’ll give them more often. It’s a win-win.
23. Don’t Make Strange, Confused, or Disgusted Faces (we read them better than you think)
You don’t see your facial expressions when giving your guy head so you’re not aware of the strange faces you may be making and what these faces may communicate to him.
It doesn’t matter if you say you enjoy it when your face tells him the truth.
Let him see true desire on your face. Love all about him and his penis completely.
Just avoid making the “I’m working on an important project” face or the “am I doing this right?” face, or the “why didn’t he came yet?” face.
These ruin a blow job, no wonder he can’t orgasm.
24. Observe and Adjust
Women that give great blowjobs all have a simple thing in common: they are great observers.
They use their intuition and they study their guy’s movements, reactions, sighs, moans, words, they look up at him from down below seductively and follow his reactions to her every move, then she knows weather she should speed up or slow down. When, where, how.
Force your guy to be more vocal about his true desires and force him tell you what he likes most. Ask him what he likes and he’ll open up, just make sure he knows that you won’t give him a bad reaction if he’s brutally honest with you. If he likes giving you a facial then that’s what he should get.
25. Use All of Your Assets
Nice breasts? Show them. Put on a sexy bra, or take it off, have a nice long necklace that shines around while you’re doing your blowjob magic. Play with your boobs (or give him a boob job too, just oil it up 😉 If your booty is your best “feature” then that’s what should be in focus. Put your booty high up in the air so he can have a spectacular view of it as a bonus to looking at you going deep (see tip #21).
Tilt your back so he can see your thongs and butt nicely, and especially your feet if he has a foot fetish (a lot of guys do) and you are on your knees while he’s standing.
You need to use all your assets to your advantage. Whatever it is, use it, because a blowjob isn’t just about using your mouth.
There must be something specific about you that he enjoys most otherwise he couldn’t get an erection.
26. Blindfold Him to Focus His Senses
Men may be visual, but imagination is king.
Blindfold him so he doesn’t see you. This is good if you are too self-conscious during a blowjob, you’ll be able to relax a bit and focus on pleasing him (yourself) without worrying how you look.
The good thing is that he’ll rely on his other senses, not just his eyes, and this can often lead to something even more powerful because he can’t see it in case you pause, move your hair or take hair off your tongue, or make strange faces sometime.
27. Blindfold Yourself to Improve Your Focus
Even though eye contact with your guy is important during a blowjob, still, what’s important is that you depend on fewer senses so you can hone your skills.
Blindfold yourself and see how different your technique will become.
You’ll improve a lot because you’ll have more focus on your technique and less on what’s going around, this will help you calm your mind (tip #8)
Give yourself up to him, let him abuse you (gently, of course) or maybe even more roughly if you can deep-throat.
Men like to feel dominant in bed, and the more you can submit to his power the more you’ll boost his ego and feeling of ownership. Let go and surrender to him.
When blindfolded you’ll have nothing to see, so you’ll have to rely on touch, smell, taste, the sounds of his moans instead of looking up at him and analyzing his facial expressions.
28. Wear a Sexy Mask (Who Are You?)
Think of catwoman… put on a sexy mask like that so you can still maintain eye contact, and then add black thongs, heels, and a sexy corset – what more can a guy ask for?
Just the visual itself will spark his imagination, let alone if your blow job is awesome. He’ll go blind when he’s eyes flip back from the power of the orgasm you give him.
29. The Blowjob Squad Dress Code: Thongs and High Heels
A great blow job is all about the show, the performance you make for him.
That’s why you have to look as sexy as possible. Get high heels, thongs, and knee pads 😉
You need to be dressed in a way that you FEEL sexy about yourself, that’s when you’ll be sexy for him as well, you’ll have this attractive energy about you that simply radiates your feminine sexuality.
Invest in a gym membership and a sexy pair of thongs, high heels and other accessories (like a nice necklace) just for his viewing pleasures and you’ll see his jaw drop sooner than later in disbelief when he achieves the most powerful orgasms of his life, one after the other.
30. Let Him “(Ab)Use” You
As said in tip #27, let go and surrender yourself to him.
When giving him a blow job you have the power to give him ultimate pain or pleasure, so you are in charge, but at some point you can “surrender” your mouth to him and let him do whatever he wishes to it.
You may be afraid of “choking to death,” but you can always hold on to his legs and control his movements to be gentler and less forceful.
Try and see for yourself how much this will turn him on. The gagging sounds you make and the sloppy saliva that builds up will make him think he’s dreaming.
Remember, you don’t have to be the BEST in the world at giving blow jobs, you just need to be better than all the other women your guy had sex with in the past.
We compare you to past experiences and set benchmarks for the quality we expect in our sex lives. Don’t meet his expectations, surpass them. Astonish him.
Don’t just meet your competition – crush it with mind-blowing skills… that’s why I recommend you use Jack’s classic blowjob lessons to acquire the skills most men only dream of their girlfriend possessing.
31. The Golden Word
The thing most women lack in order to give great blow jobs is the right attitude.
You view it as a job, or as something you give him and he should be thankful for.
That’s a HORRIBLE way to view blowjobs and it just makes your blowjobs mediocre, if even that.
Instead, view blow jobs as a gift, a blessing you are getting from him.
He’s giving you this incredible opportunity, an opportunity you are thankful for.
Ask him for permission to give him a blow job and see how this will make his MIND melt before he even reaches orgasm. Just say: “Can I please give you a blow job?” (playfully) It’s the most powerful word in your sexcabulary.
32. Stay Foolish
Don’t view blowjobs as rocket science or something.
It’s a skill any woman can learn if she wants to, but you don’t have to view the learning process and blowjobs as something serious.
Keep having fun. Take your time. Don’t worry about making it “perfect.” The perfect blowjob will happen when everything falls into place, and often it simply is not your fault when things go wrong.
You can’t influence everything around you. Control what you can (your attitude) and the rest will fall into it’s place.
Don’t worry about being perfect; just think of it as having fun and that should be your one and only goal when giving a blowjob. Play games, act more innocent than you are but be naughty and dirty at the same time. Your ability to be a “sl*t” and a princess at the same time that will make him love (you) your blowjobs.
Let go of your nonsense fears of being looked down upon.
The only thing you should fear when giving your guy a blowjob is fear itself. Keep having fun and stay foolish.
33. And Hungry
Maybe you misunderstood Steve Jobs when he said “Stay hungry, stay foolish…” in his 2005 commencement speech at Stanford. Just for the record – he was talking about blow jobs. He was just speaking in code.
Stay hungry and your guy will stay in love. No joke. Men are far simpler than you think.
34. That Secret Spot
You’ve heard this a million times, but it’s advice worth repeating. It is the string of skin connecting the head of his penis with the outside skin. It is super-sensitive and giving quick-licks to it can be very stimulating.
Use it to your advantage.
35. Slap and Giggle
Put on a show.
Slap your tongue with his penis as you’re saying “aaah,” then giggle and smile.
It’s part of taking your time and being playful about it. Grow familiar with his “buddy” and accept it completely.
Look at it with a hint of fascination in your eyes that will only boost his ego even further. Measure it up to see if it’s longer than your face’s length just for fun.
Anyone can learn the techniques and that will get you somewhere, but a great blow job isn’t just about conquering physical but psychological pleasure, that’s the harder part.
36. Make It Wet and Sloppy
Saliva needs to be dripping all over the place.
The more excited you are about giving him a blow job the more excited he will be about receiving it.
When you are drooling all over his penis and just the sight of him is making your mouth water and you feel a need to take him in deep, that’s the kind of attitude that will drive any man wild. When you drool it says “this is delicious.”
Your totally wet mouth communicates an important message to him: I’m super-excited.
And there’s nothing more exciting than knowing that you love it, that you’re turned on and that there is NO OTHER PLACE in the world you would rather be now more than on your knees, enjoying yourself.
Spit on his penis, gather more saliva, drool over it, don’t worry about the “weird” sounds you might be making. They’re a turn on!
Stop being so self-conscious and get out of your mind. Stop thinking and be in the moment, in the zone, enjoying it completely.
37. Turn Yourself On to Turn Him On
Masturbate while sucking on his penis. Turn yourself on. Some women are so in love with giving blow jobs that they can even achieve an orgasm from it. That’s the level you should get to, and even if you don’t, act as if – fake it till you make it and just see how mind-blowing his orgasms will be.
The best time to give your guy a blow job is when you are turned on naturally and want to have sex, instead of jumping directly to sex, use blow jobs as foreplay, and maybe even after play just for the fun of it. The more you’re turned on, the more he’ll enjoy the blow job. It’s the same like sex, when you are super-wet, he feels wanted and that feeling is what triggers the orgasm in his mind.
38. Be Naughty, but Innocent
Men love “sl*ts.” And that’s exactly what you should be when giving him head.
On the other hand, men don’t want to be in a relationship with a woman that society labels a “sl*t.”
So stick to the old philosophy: A lady on the streets and a ho between the sheets.
Be naughty, kinky and playful, but also act innocent at the same time, as if you didn’t know what you are doing.
It’s playful and attractive simply because nobody wants to think about how you got “all that experience.” Act as if this is something you don’t “usually do” and you don’t do it with all men, but that he is special for you and turns you on in ways other men never did and that’s why you are just now discovering your love of blowing him.
39. Don’t Expect Anything, Just Enjoy the Journey
This is probably the most important blow job tip you’ll get: Stop expecting him to orgasm.
He does… not… have… to orgasm. Period.
Simply, that should not be your goal, if it is, then you’re not relaxed, you’re under pressure and you are waiting for him to “finish.”
This only puts pressure on him and makes him feel as if he is torturing you or making you do something you don’t really want to do. Be in the moment and enjoy it, forget about the results. They’ll come, and if they don’t – don’t take it personally. Not every day is a perfect day for a blow job. Really, sometimes it’s him, not you.
Not every day is a day for mind-blowing orgasms. This tip is the most important lesson you should learn: do not have a goal or expectation in mind, other than having fun.
When you don’t have a goal, you de-pressurize your blowjob and he isn’t under any type of stress and he isn’t thinking. When he’s not thinking, then all his attention is focused on you (right where you want it) and this means he’ll always orgasm.
40. Change Location
Same place, same time, same style – even if you give great blow jobs, at some point too much of a good thing can become a bad, boring thing.
Freshen up your blowjobs by changing things up, from your style, to the location and mood in which you give him supreme pleasure.
Leave the bedroom, go out in the wild… sometimes even just the change in room will do. Get kinky and adventurous with your blowjobs. Give him a blowjob in public, in a car, in a cinema. Get adventurous. Remember tip #9, you want him so bad that you can’t control yourself or wait until you get home. You need to go down on him right now, right here. Or else.
The best blow jobs are memorable not so much because of their quality but because of the atmosphere, situation, role, and surrounding. In the end, what we remember is the emotion. Always aim to be remembered!
41. A Real Woman Never Let’s Her Man Leave the House Hungry or Horny (Horngry)
That’s why you should give him a surprise (see tip #20) “good morning” blowjob while he’s shaving or cooking bacon and eggs for breakfast.
“How would you like your eggs, honey?” and you just appear there, giving him a mind-blowing blowjob and say “Good morning baby.”
This one “move” alone will help him have a great day at work and stop him from checking out his shamelessly slutty, overdressed, mean machine maneating co-worker.
Or at some other moment, after a delicious romantic dinner at home with some wine. We all know men have a one-track mind, while you sexy ladies can multi-task forever. So try matching the perfect meal with a perfect blowjob and you’ll go a long way with any guy you want.
42. Give Him a Sneak Peak of the Destination
Your tongue is your weapon of mass explosion. Make it sharp, fast and passionate. Let him see it, say “Aaaaah” as you open your mouth wide for him to see what he can expect.
Show him your tongue so he knows where he’ll arrive sooner than later. It’s an awesome turn on to see your wide open mouth.
43. Build It Up and Down to Prepare a Tsunami-Orgasm
Remember that you are not in a hurry, there’s no such thing as “how long should a blow job last?” It lasts… and doesn’t have to arrive anywhere, that’s the surest way it can arrive somewhere. Don’t worry, with practice you’ll get to a point where you control when he’ll come.
Either way, when he gets closer to orgasm, you’ll feel his balls stiffening, his pulse speeding up and he’ll start making the “oh, my, god” face that you’re already familiar with… right then… slow it down instead of speeding it up. Tease him to perfection.
Be playful again, take it slow, massage his penis slower and make a naughty look. You control his orgasm.
Build up his orgasm so he doesn’t come immediately but “stacks” it up. Then when it finally comes, when You let him come, it comes big time. Like a volcanic eruption. You know you’ve got him when he makes a SHOCKED face.
44. Massage The Right Spot
Here’s a little tip you can use immediately.
He has a PC muscle. This muscle is what “shoots” out his “love-potion” when he orgasms, it’s also the muscle he contracts when he wants to control when he stops or starts peeing.
This muscle begins behind his testicles at his perineum. There are other muscles here (kegel) that are responsible for his orgasm.
What makes his orgasm 10 times more powerful is when you massage his perineum (the area between his testicles and anus) during a blow job.
Cup his balls in your palm and move your index and middle finger back to his perineum and massage that area… first, he’ll love it, second – it will “clear the passage” and you’ll make these muscles pump way harder.
When he finally reaches orgasm it will last longer and it will be infinitely more powerful (you’ll be surprised).
45. Let Him See You From More Than One Perspective
If you don’t already, you should definitely put a mirror somewhere on ground level (or bed-level) height so when you’re giving him a blow job he can also see your booty from a totally different angle. I know you may be shy… dim the lights (a bit), but don’t turn them off completely. Definitely put a mirror somewhere.
46. Where Are Your Wings?
Nowadays you have so many options in sex shops, get creative. Why not get angel wings and be his private angel (not Victoria’s).
Have a sexy costume with wings when giving him your next blow job. Listen, with awesome blow job skills, he’ll think you’re an angel sent from Blowjob Heaven anyway. Just for fun. The key is to make it memorable.
47. Have a Glass of Wine (or Two)
Never give a blowjob when you’re drunk. You’ll fail, miserably. But a glass or two of wine is ideal. The main reason most women give bad blowjobs is because of negative social conditioning. Some think it’s dirty, disgusting or demeaning to women or whatever (and they still wonder why they can’t keep a guy?). Having a glass of wine will put you both in the mood and help you let go, relax ( stop thinking ) and have an excuse for being shamelessly hungry (see tip #33). Forget about being a lady, now is not the time for that.
48. And Play Some Lounge
A big part of giving great blowjobs is creating a sexy, relaxed atmosphere where you can both forget about the world around you.
It’s just him, you and the incredible passion connecting you. Play some sexy music that will put him in the mood.
Jazz, lounge, or whatever the mood you create calls for.
49. Don’t Forget the Candle Light
Everybody looks better under candlelight. Forget about blowjobs in the dark. If you are too shy and keep turning the lights off you are really “in the dark” so to speak.
Remember, you must believe in yourself, enjoy yourself and be happy with who you are.
Be comfortable in your own skin by loving yourself, and improving yourself, not with make-up but with a healthy lifestyle, and, more importantly, a healthy mindset towards your own beauty. Say “you are beautiful” to yourself every day.
Candles can smell nice and make the atmosphere for your perfect blow job sexier and more romantic. The point is to capture all of his senses.
50. Smell Like Sex
And that’s why it’s also important how you smell, put on a sexy perfume to add even more enjoyment to the mix. When he remembers that “amazing blowjob” you gave him “that time” … in his mind, the first thing that will register is your smell. Whenever you wear that same perfume again he’ll immediately associate it to that mind-blowing orgasm and just smelling you will instantly get him turned on.
Yep, brainwash him.
51. Turn Your (and His) Phone OFF
There’s nothing worse than getting a call or text messages while giving your guy a blow job.
Sure, it may be attractive to him if he’s working, playing video games, cooking or talking on the phone while you are giving him head (do it, sometimes), that makes him feel more powerful and it can be really cool, but it’s not a regular thing.
In general, he also wants to relax and enjoy the pleasure you’re giving him, so turn your bloody phone off, and his, so you don’t get distracted all the time.
52. Don’t Wait to Get Tapped on Your Shoulder, Take Initiative
He should never have to “ask” or “beg” for a blow job like an idiot. That alone is already too degrading and makes the whole thing pointless.
You should take initiative by knowing when is a good time for a blow job (most of the time), initiate it yourself to help him relax; you’ll see a big difference in your relationship’s quality once blowjobs happen more often because you wanted to please him and not because he had to ask for it.
53. Move Your Hair
Tie your hair into a bun or a ponytail (even better!) or somehow else so that your hair doesn’t always jump into the “action” and distracts you by having to move your hair away every minute. It’s annoying and kills the mood by killing your momentum.
Men are visual and love variety. The need for variety is biological. He’s programmed to “spread the genes” – a way to trick his biology is to appear as a different person from time to time… that’s why role-play is attractive. A good way to use this to your advantage is to change your hairstyle from time to time and how you look.
Sometimes you’ll give him a blow job when you are completely naked, other times you’ll be totally dressed, or something in between.
54. Don’t Use Hands (Sometimes It’s Better Not to)
I said “use your hands” in tip #11, why? Because a lot of women simply don’t use their hands at all. Or don’t use them correctly.
Now, if you DO know how to use your hands correctly already, what’s attractive is to NOT use them at all and instead give a “hands-free” blow job. Put your hands behind your back or on his legs (or butt) and use just your mouth.
This will force you to improve your technique and suction to the max. When he slips out of your wet mouth you can chase it back in.
Once you can get your guy to orgasm from a blow job by using your mouth alone – imagine the kind of blow jobs and pleasure you’ll be able to give him once you start using your hands again. It will feel like a miracle.
He won’t know that getting such pleasure from a blow job is even possible. You need to do this combined with Tip #30 (Let him “abuse” you). When using just your mouth, he can then play around with your mouth, that’s why you must learn how to deep-throat and take your love deeper than Atlantis (see why in tip #21), otherwise you’ll never be able to make his semi-sadistic, secret blowjob fantasies and fetishes come true. And I mean, that’s like a one-way ticket to happily ever after. That’s what makes him get down on one knee and put a ring on your finger.
55. Let Him Do It
When you are arriving to the “finale” it might just be that you can’t manage to get him to “arrive,” then you feel like a failure and give up. Don’t give up!
Giving up is for quitters and as soon as you start feeling bad about yourself and asking yourself “why didn’t he come yet?” – he’ll immediately see this on your face and HE will start worrying about it and then it’s over. He won’t be able to orgasm.
There’s just no way he’ll orgasm after that thought crosses his mind.
Again, don’t forget that he does not have to orgasm, if he doesn’t – don’t make a big deal out of it otherwise he’ll have a hard time to orgasm in the future as well. Then it’s just a vicious circle.
If he believes that he can not orgasm from a blow job (and many men have this false belief because they haven’t met a woman that gives great blow jobs, yet) then he’ll convince himself he can’t and this will become his reality. His mind blocks his penis.
Anyway, make sure that you are OKAY with it if he finishes off himself toward the end and you keep touching yourself, massaging your breasts, showing him your open mouth and waiting for your “dessert.” This is also the best time to talk dirty to him.
Have stroke him while you get as low as possible and sexily lick and suck on his balls gently. (He’ll LOVE this).
The point here is to have him finish himself so that he gets used to the idea that he CAN come from a blowjob.
Later on you’ll be able to get him of completely by yourself.
56. Spitters are Quitters
As I said before, you need to be different (better) than other women when it comes to sex and blowjobs. Set yourself apart.
Nobody says that you need to be the best in the world, just better than any other woman your man will ever come in contact with or did in the past.
Many women are disgusted by getting sperm anywhere near their face or mouth, but then again, are they in happy relationships? I doubt it.
Their man is also watching porn and wondering how come he can’t get any of that kind of action?
If you want to give the best blow jobs to your guy then you have to do what most other women don’t want to do.
Spitting is basically rejecting him, and it’s hard to make a guy believe that you truly enjoy giving him blowjobs if you don’t enjoy the product of your “labor.”
Spitting is as if you are spitting him out, making a strange, grossed out look on your face, if you even let him finish in your mouth.
You must embrace and love every part of him. And that’s why…
57. You Have to Swallow (in Style)
Don’t spit, swallow. A lot of people tell you “swallowing is totally up to you” – but that’s just advice that’s shooting you in your own foot. You must swallow, otherwise all you’ve done until now is going to waste. The most important part of a blowjob is how you finish it, and if it’s not done right, then it’s better if you didn’t even start the blowjob in the first place.
Swallow – and do it with style, with total passion, devotion and love for your guy.
Swallowing sets you apart. Swallowing says “I accept you, completely.” Show him what he gave you and then happily enjoy your reward (remember, attitude is everything!).
Worried about the taste? You can make his semen taste better by making him watch his diet, and he will if he knows what “benefits” that brings him in the bedroom.
Don’t blame him for his desires, or me for being honest with you. Blame porn for our high expectations of women. And even instead of complaining about it (as many women do), take advantage of this. Use these realizations of his desires to your advantage… that’s how you wrap him around your finger, by knowing what he really wants in bed, giving it to him, and then having him sexually addicted to you and seeing you as the love of his life. Men are simpler than you think.
58. Make Your Own Performance
A great blowjob is a great show. If you trust this guy (don’t do it if you don’t trust him!), make your own video. See how you look and how you perform.
Make show out of it, a true performance. If you make the initiative, he’ll love it even more. You can watch it together, and he’ll have some great material when the two of you are apart for any reason. Get into the role completely and have fun with it.
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59. Be a Sinner. We’re All Going to Hell Anyway!
I don’t care whether you’re religious or not, or what your religion is if you are. A supremely sexy thing to add an extra dose of “naughty” to your blow job is to have a religious symbol on your body during a blow job. For example, if you’re Christina, have a necklace with a cross on it or earrings in a cross shape while giving him a blow job.
Anything that “shouldn’t be done” has a dose of kink to it, that’s why the schoolgirl/innocent role is a turn on. Get creative with your sinner role.
60. Sit back and Enjoy
And the last tip: just sit back and enjoy ALL THE LOVE you’re gonna get once you apply these awesome blowjob tips.
Every man loves a great blowjob and you’ll see how much more he’ll appreciate you once you give him the kind of satisfaction he dreams about.
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