7 Things Strong Women Do As They Wait For True Love

There are times you go out there and find love on your own. There are also times when all you need to do is to wait for love to find you. Here are seven things you absolutely must do.

Waiting for love is probably one of the most challenging things to do in life. You sit there, waiting, and you don’t know when it will happen. You don’t have the slightest idea about when that person you’re waiting for will find you or if he will even come in the first place.

Despite these challenges, waiting need not incapacitate you. If you view things from the right perspective, it can actually empower you to be the woman you want and need to be in life: independent, resilient and strong.

So, if you’re currently at this stage in your dating life, here are seven of the most important things you can do as you wait for Mr. Right to find you.

1. Feed your brain

Young pretty woman studying in library

Education is something that you’ll benefit from regardless of your relationship status. So, while Mr. Right is still on his way to find you, go ahead and pursue the degree you’ve always dreamed of.

If you’re not into attending contact sessions at a university, there are various online classes that you can also consider. Not all online courses are credit courses, though, meaning they don’t count towards a degree. Therefore, check the validity of the courses if before you sign up if you want the courses to count towards a degree.

2. Develop your relationships

Whether it’s with your potted plant, your dog, your neighbors, your besties or your family, developing your relationships is one of the most beautiful and impactful things you can do while you’re single.

Make sure the other people in your life know that you care by following up on your words with action. When you form an unshakeable relationship and bond with them, you’ll find that you can’t be shaken easily, no matter what challenges you and your future Mr. Right face.

3. Turn your hobbies into opportunities

Cooking woman in kitchen with wooden spoon

Think about that one thing that you know you excel at. It’s something that people compliment you about, something that you may consider to be your talent. It can be cooking, singing, designing, etc.

Whatever it is, develop yourself in this area until you’re able to find opportunities where you can actually earn from what started as a hobby. This will be a worthwhile way to spend time as a single woman.

4. Shine in your workplace

If you’re currently employed, whether full- or part time, this is the perfect opportunity to impress your boss and clients. Let them see how much of an asset you are by improving your skills consistently and working on opportunities.

More importantly, when you’ve established a career, you’ll have a better chance of meeting the kind of Mr. Right you’re looking for because of the social network you’ll have formed through your professional connections.

5. Travel

Santorini travel tourist woman on vacation in Oia walking on stairs

Let’s face it. Mr. Right may want to travel with you from time to time, but if you’ve been born with wanderlust, occasional travel won’t cut it. You’d want to move from one place to another and reach the furthest places you can afford to reach.

Being single affords you this kind of adventure because you’re your own your boss. You don’t have to get anyone’s permission, so go ahead, and travel where you want as much as you can until Mr. Right arrives. You can’t be sure he’ll allow you this freedom when he finally comes.

6. Revisit the standards you’ve set for your potential life partner

You probably have a list of things that you’re looking for in a possible boyfriend. If you don’t, you surely have specific qualities that you’ve taken a mental note of that you want your future SO to have.

There’s no perfect time to evaluate these than when you’re single. Think about whether what you have set is realistic or not. It will also help to pick out the top three most important qualities you think should be non-negotiable and to list your dating deal breakers so that when you start dating again, you’ll spot red flags before it’s too late.

7. Enjoy the wait

If you have besties who are currently in a relationship, you’ve probably heard them say for the umpteenth time how they wish they could be single again because being single is probably one of the most exciting (though terrifying) times of a person’s life. It just depends on the lens you’re viewing your relationship status from.

So, while you’re in this phase, just enjoy the ride. Take your time, and don’t rush into anything. The day will come when you’ll soon reap the efforts of your patience and perseverance while waiting. When that day finally comes, it will be worth it!

Being single doesn’t make you less of the strong woman you are. So, nail the art of being single, and enjoy the ride while waiting for Mr. Right!

What other worthwhile things you think single women should do while waiting for the love of their life? Share your thoughts in the comment.

These Are The Keys To A Successful Marriage

Marriage isn’t all flowers and magic all the time. You are going to have to put in the effort, which is one of the keys to a successful marriage.

White dresses. Flower arrangements. The first kiss as husband and wife, the first dance, the dinner and celebration with family and friends.

These are the things that come to your mind when you think about marriage. As a little kid, you dreamed of your wedding day and just knew it would be super magical.

You couldn’t imagine it any other way. You would look beautiful, your hair would be pulled back in a gorgeous veil, and the weather would never think to be anything other than sunny and perfect.

Then you actually get married and realize that it’s not all flowers and steak or salmon. You have to put in the effort on a daily basis and if you don’t, your relationship is going to be over faster than you even know it.

Read on to find out the keys to a successful marriage.

1) Be friends first

positive and carefree couple having fun in city

Yes, of course, you’re no longer boyfriend and girlfriend – now you’re husband and wife. That’s a big deal and it’s a pretty massive change. There’s no way that you wouldn’t notice this.

But if you don’t act like the two of you are friends, you’re going to let all the ups and downs of life get in the way. Things won’t always be super great and you won’t be happy all the time. You’re going to have long, exhausting weeks at work. You’re going to have an epic cold that won’t go away for six weeks. You’re going to struggle to balance everything in your life, from your marriage to your best friends to your career and hobbies.

If you and your now husband stop being friends first, you might not be super compassionate toward each other when life doesn’t go as planned. And that would be a real shame since it would basically mean forgetting that whole “in sickness and in health” thing.

2) Be your own person

You can’t magically get rid of your life just because you’re married now. You need to still be your own person. If you don’t, you’re going to resent your husband for making your entire life about him… and that’s not fair since it will be your decision and your doing.

Think about what matters to you the most in your life. That Saturday morning barre cardio class? Spending a quiet Sunday afternoon baking chocolate chip cookies? Girls night out and trips with your friends and seeing your parents and sister on a regular basis?

Don’t get rid of your interests and hobbies or stop seeing the people that mean the most to you. It’s unhealthy to be laser focused on your relationship, and your husband probably doesn’t want to give up everything and everyone that he loves, either.

3) Have new experiences

You’ve probably seen tons of stereotypical married couples in movies or read about them in books. Or maybe you’ve experienced this firsthand with married couples in your life.

A lot of couples refuse to try anything new or get out of their comfort zones. They spend every single night of the week eating take-out and watching TV. They rarely go out, even to dinner at that pub around the corner, and they definitely don’t travel or take classes or get new interests.

And they wonder why they start to hate and resent each other. They’re super confused about why they think their married life is so boring.

Don’t be like those people. Chances are, you don’t want to be. You want to have new experiences with your husband and try new things. Follow your instincts and you will have a super successful marriage.

4) Enjoy every day

Pillow Fight Couple

Part of long-term happiness is making the most of each and every day. It might seem like it won’t make a difference, but if you’re in a bad mood most of the time, those days are going to add up. And soon you’ll forget to be grateful for this guy in your life and you’ll never appreciate him.

Enjoy every day of your life and truly make the most of this time that you and your husband have together. After all, isn’t that why you’re here on this earth, and why you’re even together in the first place?

5) Compromise (but actually)

Okay, so you of course know that compromise is a part of any successful relationship… and especially in any successful marriage.

But are you really prepared to do this? Are you really going to do something for your partner without resenting them or getting mad at them or secretly hating them for months and months?

That’s a lot easier said than done.

If you can figure out how to actually compromise, whether it’s about a little thing like whether or order pizza or Chinese for dinner or a larger issue like what neighborhood to move to, you’re going to be much better off.

6) Make your life as easy as possible

It’s definitely no secret that life is tough sometimes. You don’t get the promotion that you wanted… or even the job that you had your eye on. You lose friends and family along the way, whether because they get sick or because you have to cut them out of your life because they’re pretty toxic.

But just because life is hard doesn’t mean that you have to make it even more difficult. And of course you do this because everyone does at one point or another. But don’t make mountains out of molehills or think that something is an issue when it’s actually totally fine. Talk to your husband about everything that’s going on, and help each other fix problems, whether they’re issues in your relationship or in your own lives.

Making your life as easy as possible also means not sweating the small stuff. So what if he wants to spend Sunday afternoons watching baseball and hockey? Is that going to ruin your life and your marriage? Probably not. Actually, definitely not.

7) Lean on each other

Cheerful couple having fun on summer vacation

The whole point of marriage is to lean on each other and have a true partner in everything. If you forget that and don’t go to your husband in good times and bad, you’re not living up to your promise of being a wife… and you’re not letting him be a real husband, either.

When you’re in pain or worried about something, talk to your husband. That’s what he’s there for. Don’t suffer in silence or let things become a bigger problem than they have to be. And remind him that you will do the same for him when he’s going through something.

8) Grow together

It’s impossible to be in a long-term relationship and not change. While some people hate change because they think it’s a negative thing and they love the comfort of the status quo, if you reframe change as positive growth, it’s much easier to deal with.

Of course, a marriage is pretty much the most long-term relationship you can possibly imagine. So that means that you and your husband are going to grow. A lot.

But as long as you grow together, that’s going to be just fine. That’s another key to marital bliss because if one of you starts acting differently or changes careers, the other one needs to adapt and basically get on board.

This means truly understanding what changes your partner is making in their life and why… and always making sure to keep them in the loop as you grow as a person or in your business. You just can’t get away with not sharing this.

9) Don’t be too independent

The final key to a successful marriage? That would be understanding that yes, you need to be your own person, and yes, you need your own life. But you can’t be too independent.

If you want to act like you’re still super single, then guess what? You might as well get divorced right now and be on your own. You’re not alone. So don’t act like it. You have a partner in this life and that’s a good thing. That means being a part of each other’s worlds, from dinner dates with each other’s friends to bringing each other along to work events and family gatherings.

Be a team and you’ll win in the end. No one ever said that marriage was simple, but it’s a journey that is definitely worth it if you’re willing to put the work in.

As long as you can remember the entire point of being married – so you can help each other through the highs and lows of life, and oh yeah, have some fun along the way – you should have a totally successful marriage.

Are you married or engaged? Have you figured out the key to a successful marriage? Share your thoughts with us in the comments below!

6 Romantic Things To Do With Your Boyfriend This Weekend – YouQueen

We know that our readers here at YouQueen are women of the 21st century! They are not the type of ladies that are going to sit around waiting for their men to come up with some grand romantic gesture (no matter how much they deserve it).

We’re just as capable at planning a romantic escape as the boys are, so what are you waiting for? Here are some romantic ideas to try out with your man this weekend.

1. Don’t Go Anywhere

young couple enjoying champagne In bedroom

Sometimes the most romantic place to be is your bed. Stock up on snacks and movies, turn off the cell phones and the laptops, change into something a bit more comfortable (wink, wink) and vow to spend 24 straight hours in bed.

A disconnect from the world can be just what a couple needs at times to escape all the crazy stresses of the outside world.

Relax with a full season of that tv series you both love on dvd, spend time playing, talking and of course there are other activities that can take place. Refer to the event as “island day,” making your bed your island for the entire day. Before you know it your boyfriend will be begging you for a much needed island day.

2. Get lost

Nothing is sexier than spontaneity. So get on a bus or a train without any specific destination in mind and get off at any new location that looks good. Find a new restaurant in town, check in to a quirky bed and breakfast, learn to explore together.

Make the town your own little secret escape as a couple, or if you get off in a place you can’t stand enjoy making fun of the situation together. The weekend will be a guaranteed bonding experience and definitely expand on your cooperation and communication skills as a couple.

Keep in mind if your man isn’t the type to “go with the flow” then this may be an adventure you want to pass on, but if you’re both equally adventurous pack a toothbrush and see where the road takes you. Expect to have some quality inside jokes for the rest of your relationship.

3. Eat, Pray, Love

a young couple enjoying a relaxed lunch at a restaurant

Get inspired by the popular book/film and base your schedule around a day that’s indulgent to the soul.

Try out a new cuisine (Ethiopian is delicious and involves eating with your hands), explore a new art exhibit or a free concert in the park, and finish the day with some romantic scenery at the beach or by just parking somewhere with a beautiful view of the stars.

Try and spend your day doing activites that involve all your senses, this will set the stage for even more sensory indulgence when you get home.

4. Fun on a budget

Challenge your creative side and plan a day trip on a ridiculously low budget. Pick the cost of your whole day, somewhere around $15-50 dollars and see how much fun you can have in your area on that price.

This will require both of you to think out of the box, and will ensure lots of laughter along the way. Remember the best things in life are free, and there may be an abundance of free events and activities in your area that you have yet to discover.

Check out sites like craigslist or dailycandy.com to see whats going on in your neighborhood. You’ll be surprised at how much you can do with very little. Besides, it’s the quality time that really matters.

5. Have a sporty day

surfer couple in silhouette holding long surf boards at sunset

Has your man spent most of your relationship seeing you in heels in make up (honey we told you that you look better without it), surprise him by trading in your girlie image for one a bit more athletic.

We know what you’re thinking, sports isn’t exactly what you would view as “romantic,” but for him it just may be. Not to mention any kind of fun change is very sexy to a man, so seeing a new side of you is the ultimate turn on.

While we don’t recommend couples boxing or anything too competitive (these have the potential to end very badly) we suggest sports like rock climbing or surfing.

Even if you’re a pro at it, give him the opportunity to teach or help you out. Men love being able to feel like their contributing or helping their woman out.

6. Take a Class

Learning together can be a seriously fun and sexy adventure, especially if it’s something neither of you have ever tried out. Take a cooking class or a painting class, try a guitar lesson, dance class or even learn a new language together.

Make sure it’s something that you can both practice on your own together. Going through the hurdles of learning something new will bring you closer and show you a great deal of how capable the two of you are at working together. Later on you can always involve other couple friends to be involved in the activity with you, making it a group date night.

What’s important is that you’re learning and growing together as a team.  Also, being able to show off as a couple later on is pretty cool.

Did you try out any of these ideas? What did you think? Let us know how your date night/weekend went. We love hearing feedback, and feel free to let us and the rest of YouQueen community know some of your own date ideas.