Personal Development Pushes You To The Top.

Hello good evening welcome my name is Oviedo welcome all right I want to share with you today that’s not development pushes you today to the top most people many of us live which guess about this formula and the formula is trained us to rely on academics on school for us to get to the top they train us to.

Rely on connections people you know government machinery you know the infrastructure the system that has been built by somebody or the government to help us to succeed with our lives and a large portion of us to.

We’ve been conditioned and taught to rely on God to get the best out of life I remember during our final years in the university a friend of mine showed me a book it.

Just come to the market don’t even know if he remembers it but it was this book Rich Dad Poor Dad that had come and a friend of.

His had traveled to another country and bought it and got it so yesterday I mean I think you’ll like this book so read this book.

Was about fine ice about trying to create life out of what you know.

It was you know it’s about level level ground wherever that you are and I love reading books I love reading a lot of religious books aloud reading about motivational books I remember reading read a lot about you just have to read now I was not doing those specifically as a self development book I just love reading just.

Reading religious books you know things that will get you like later and motivated to keep pushing it was not constructive at that point I remember try to.

Read a lot of the Bible and it was something that is religious.

You have to read Bible to be spiritual all those books that you read about but now you know Greenup is doesn’t mean that it was a tool and that tool is what I call self development it was a tool that pushed I think that the very top of many people in a group of people in any.

In any profession the very top the verdict of the first and profess five people in any group when I spot it is when I was religion what is academia but I.

Sign you know any business the very top they constantly committed to developing themselves beyond what everybody has knows so maybe 90% of the people will rely on.

The general training from the school that they’re not training from their church they do not training from the media and the general training from everybody for the culture from their parents the very top.

In the field especially those who have to push themselves to build themselves from nothing can only rely on self and whether you do it with structure whether you do it with a program that standing or just something that’s happening to you and in you today we call.

It personal development it’s likely to be responsible for any success that you are enjoying what is in your profession what is in your finances what I is in your family anything that you enjoy is.

Likely that things that you consciously or unconsciously we’re cleaning yourself with push you into the top into the top of that personal development being committed to becoming productive which is that which you are doing with your life whether the business you know.

What I say when I is a is an employment it’s a job that you have.

Adrienne Minor – Personal Development

My name is adria miner I am an educator in Birmingham Alabama and a student at the University of West Alabama I obtained my bachelor’s degree from Alabama State University go Hornets I have worked with students since I was 14 volunteering and an after-school care and summer camp all of my life’s experiences have shaped my life and well-being tremendously.

Wow my cognitive development background was nourished by my family full of educators my parents worked on Finance but my grandparents were dedicated dedicated educators for over 30 years I believe education is a gateway for anything you want to do in life it’s taken very seriously and instilled and everyone I come across.

I plan to get my EDS in education as well culture is very significant to me raised in Birmingham Alabama I am all-around southern girl all of my parents and grandparents are from the.

South I have plenty of family from the northern states meeting me no one usually guesses that I’m from Alabama when I’m visiting another state religion is deeply rooted.

In my family’s household and family is our number one priority I plan on carrying these same cultural outlooks happiness is the most important aspect of my life my emotions are usually controlled by reminding myself of mind over matter those situations won’t matter I don’t let them on me I believe I’m looking at the positives in every.

Negative situation and focusing my energy on that to keep positivity around me my more development is sitting around.

My Christian faith I do my best to live by the words in the Bible it is my god to get.

Through life my faith often helps him with the practice of discernment scissors are made by there’s not anyone else I hold myself accountable and trying to make the best decisions that best reflect myself and my family physical development is one that many of us don’t consider until there are health health issues why some tent over like it is very important to.

Truly take care of our well-being we have to keep our bodies healthy I believe that living a healthy lifestyle makes a big difference in all aspects of our lives the root of my social development has always been my family all the family is important it is equally important to have friends that you really care about and they care about you everyone in.

Your life serves a purpose my family and friends have taught me how to truly be there for someone and the importance.

Of support and love spending time with my family and friends can we calm and live within life finally the key to being.

Happy is knowing you have the power to choose what takes them and what to let go there will be.

Obstacles and celebrations focus on the positive and make the best of every situation I’ve learned to keep striving no matter the circumstances when you surround yourself with is a reflection of you nature.

Has a lot to do with our stages of development but I believe nurture matters more let’s not just exist but actually live life with family friends faith.

Health happiness and success..

Top 5 Confidence Boosters For Women In Business – Youqueen

The world of business can be a tough place, especially for women, but with a little confidence it need not be that way.

While it may no longer be a man’s world, that’s not to say that life is always easy for women – especially when it comes to having a career in business. Men are still predominantly paid higher salaries and hold higher positions in the business world. That need not put you off achieving all of your career goals and dreams, however; it simply means you may need a little extra confidence to get to where you know you can be. Interested?

Here are five top tips to boost your confidence and help you fulfill your full potential in the business world….

#1 Practice Makes Confidence

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Practice makes confidence, right? Well, yes and no. In reality, practice makes confidence. If there’s a part of your job role that you’re not fully comfortable with, the best way to overcome your anxiety is to practice, practice, practice.

Before you know it, you’ll be a whiz at whatever you were stuck on and as confident as ever. Sure, it may mean putting in a few extra hours here and there, but in the long run it will be worth it so you can achieve your long term career goals.

#2 Don’t Fall into the Perfectionism Trap

Too many of us strive for perfection, but in reality I’m not even sure that perfection even exists. Business (and life!) is all about doing our best. Sure, there may be a right and wrong way to do things but very rarely will it matter if your method isn’t perfect.

Trying to perfect a task will simply take up a ridiculous amount of your time, energy and, if you find perfection hard to achieve, it will sap your confidence. Instead, learn to settle with a well done task and know when to move on. It’s the only way you’ll climb the career ladder.

#3 Make Up Your Mind

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Learning to make solid decisions, even if they later turn out to be mistakes, is a key part to winning in business. You’ll never be able to move forward or complete a task if you’re constantly dithering and swaying between choices.

Listen to your gut instinct and learn to make snappy decisions and stick to them, you’ll find you move forward much faster when you do. Sure, now and again those decisions will turn out to be wrong but don’t fret and let that fact stop you. Mistakes are how we learn and grow after all.

#4 Eliminate Your Limiting Beliefs

Too often, we box ourselves in, never doing something because we tell ourselves we can’t. Be honest with me, how many times have you had a thought that starts off like “I can’t because I’m…,”  “I’m too young/old to…,” or “I’m too inexperienced to…?”

These are all self-limiting beliefs that hold us back from reaching our true potential. To eliminate your limiting beliefs, make a list of all the reasons why you can’t reach your goals. Once you have the list, as hard as it may be to look at, analyze all you’ve written.

Are those beliefs really true? Is there anything really stopping you apart from your lack of confidence? Rephrase your list and turn each point into something positive and you’ll find your confidence blooming in no time.

#5 Make the Change

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If you want something then it’s time to take action and make it happen. Life, rewards, and change aren’t all simply going to come running to greet you, you have to reach for them and make them come to you.

Deciding to take control of your life and career is an amazing confidence booster because once you make the decision you’ll suddenly feel in complete control of where you’re headed. You have to decide to jump at every opportunity and, even more, you have to decide to make opportunity come to you. You are the only person who decides what path you’re on. You define your own life and career. You are in control.

Last but not least, I’d like to offer you one final confidence boosting tip. Take a moment each day and acknowledge how awesome you are. Take a look back on how far you’ve come, what you’ve achieved already, and appreciate all that you have. As soon as you start appreciating all that you have and all that you are, your confidence will start to blossom and you will be unstoppable.

7 Ways To Make Yourself Happier At Work – Youqueen

Unless we are really lucky, most of us don’t have jobs we absolutely love and are totally passionate about. But don’t despair, there are ways to improve your situation and make the most of what you do have.

Whether we like it or not, money makes the world go round and these days even finding a half-decent job isn’t always that easy. So, if you are currently in a job you don’t really like but are stuck there for the time being, the following will help you to rethink the situation and turn a potential lemon into lemonade.

#1 Learn To Do The Job As Well As You Possibly Can

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It doesn’t matter what you are doing, whether it is a simple, repetitive manual job or a complex creative one, you can always try and get better at it – and I mean much better. Take an almost Zen-like approach to refining it and become the organization’s number one expert – the person people come to if they ever need help, training or guidance.

Not only will you begin to have more pride in your work, but the job will become easier, less stressful and more fulfilling.  You may even become noticed by the people who call the shots as someone who takes pride in their work, is more efficient and who should maybe be rewarded accordingly.

#2 Take More Control

Now I’m not suggesting starting a mini revolution or coup d’état against the boss. No, what I am proposing is far more subtle. There are plenty of strategies you can implement to gradually put yourself in a position of more control.

These can range from making the most of your strong points, to giving yourself a bit of a makeover, smartening up and personalizing your work space as well as paying attention to your body language, verbal tones, and mannerisms.

Phase these things in gradually and most people should begin to treat you with more respect, and when this happens, an increase in your happiness level is sure to follow.

#3 Stay Healthy

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This is pretty obvious, but the healthier you feel, the better you feel. This impacts everything we do – including jobs we don’t like. The truth of the matter is that if we are unhappy at work we often begin to neglect ourselves by eating comfort food, drinking too much, and becoming lazy and inactive.

This negative behavior creates a vicious circle and we feel worse and worse – especially when we are at work.

So, try eating and drinking more healthily, lay off the booze and, if you smoke, cut down or, better still, stop. Failing this, at least get into the regular habit of going for a walk at lunchtime and get some fresh air.

#4 Make Sure You Get Plenty Of Sleep

Lack of sleep is not only bad for your health (both mental and physical); it also makes concentrating difficult, encourages mistakes, makes easy things hard work and plays havoc with your memory. Plus, more often than not it makes you late, messy, and of course your looks will suffer.

I know trying to get a good night’s sleep is easier said than done, and everyone has their own patterns and routine, but there are some simple sleep hacks you can try to build into your life.

For example, avoid stimulants late at night, make sure you go to bed at the right time, and create a comfy bed with nice clean pillows, sheets and duvet covers. It is also really important to make your environment as sleep perfect as you possibly can; this means making it nice, quiet, correctly lit and secure.

#5 Make Friends

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Oftentimes we are unhappy at work because we feel lonely and underappreciated. A great antidote to this is to make friends. Okay, I accept that this isn’t always possible, but in most cases it is.

How many people nowadays work in a completely empty space with no access to a computer or cell phone? Even if you do then you can usually meet people at lunch or coffee breaks. Plus, most organizations celebrate people’s birthdays or special events, and these are great opportunities to bond with people and turn co-workers into friends

If you work for a decent sized organization, there are often special lunchtime (or evening) clubs like yoga, Pilates or aerobics. Joining clubs or participating in after-work activities is another great way to get to know different people.

If there isn’t such a group, consider setting one up. What better way to get known and hopefully better appreciated.

#6 Start Training

Research shows that employers value staff who have vocational qualifications – they treat them better and reward them for their effort.

This in itself can make work life better. Okay, so you may have to do a bit of studying in the evening and a stressful exam or two, but there are other benefits as well.

Not only can the knowledge you acquire make your work easier, but you can sometimes benefit from a salary increase or one-off reward incentive payment.

If you are really lucky, you may even get a promotion to a better role, and if none of these happen at least your CV looks better for your next attempt at finding happy employment!

#7 Stop Complaining

The chances are that if you are unhappy at work you might fall into the habit of constantly complaining. If so, I suggest you stop it immediately.

Don’t get me wrong, you may well have lots to complain about, but people don’t always appreciate it if you spend all your time complaining about how bad your job is or how unfairly you are being treated. Worst case scenario is that they may even start seeing you as a sad whinger.

Instead, I suggest that you take action to improve the situation. Identify exactly what it is that you dislike about your job, mitigate it where possible and focus on the stuff you do like.

Of course, if someone or something is making your life difficult then by all means file an official complaint and take the necessary steps to resolve the issue. But don’t get a reputation for always complaining. It won’t do you any favors in the long run.

The sad truth is there is always someone worse off than you who would love to have your job!

So, these are some of my top tips for how you can start changing your perception of your job from mundane and dull to much more enjoyable.

Remember: At the end of the day, we spend a huge amount of our waking time at work, so doesn’t it make sense to make the most of it and enjoy that time as much as possible?

People Grieve Differently: 5 Identity Types Of Grief

Grieving after a loss is a healthy process that can be done in different ways. There are different types of grief depending on our personalities and we should be aware of them.

The final semester of my senior year in college was exciting. Graduation was right around the corner, I was rocking at my internship with Parenting Magazine, and I had landed a paid internship at Newsday for after graduation.

Then, my grandfather passed away and my life changed.

Until then, I hadn’t experienced such a drastic loss. I had gone through a couple of breakups in the past, but those weren’t nearly as painful as losing my grandfather through a host of medical complications.

Even though many people were empathetic, I also had a lot of heat from my family, friends and colleagues. They thought I was being insensitive for not outwardly sobbing at every waking moment, or for focusing on school and work instead of mourning his death.

If only they knew that I was grieving by trying to get back into routine, that this was the way that I could cope with the loss. I hadn’t fully processed the situation, and the effects of his loss hadn’t fully settled.

When someone is grieving a loss, whether it’s from a breakup or the death of a loved one, the worst thing you can do is judge someone for not crying or breaking down over the loss. The best thing you can do is educate yourself on the different types of grief and different ways people grieve.

Susan Berger, a researcher and practitioner in mental health, states in her book, The Five Ways We Grieve: Finding Your Personal Path to Healing After the Loss of a Loved One, that the five stages of grief may not help those who are grieving after the loss.

1. Nomads

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Denial, anger and confusion is how a person who grieves in this way feels most of the time, and they may not even know how it has affected their life. Berger states that a nomad griever has not dealt with or resolved their grief.

I believe that many of us grieve as nomads immediately after a loss, because we often have an element of shock and disdain. After the death of my grandfather, I didn’t cry or get angry at G-d for taking him away from us. Instead, I was in shock, and had a mental block.

Grieving in this way is normal and it’s not surprising that people continue to live their lives as if nothing has happened. However, after a certain amount of time, I suggest that you seek professional help from a counselor to sort out your thoughts and feelings.

2. Memorialists

A memorialist grieves by creating shrines or rituals in order to honor the deceased. They may dedicate a song, a place, a garden or art in their name. Visiting the deceased’s grave and leaving flowers is another ritual that you may practice if you grieve as a memorialist.

After my grandfather passed away, my family grieved as memorialists by visiting his grave at the cemetery for his birthday and important holidays such as Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Year’s Day. We would usually leave flowers or some sort of relevant décor and pray together.

3. Normalizers

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A normalizer grieves by putting their focus on friends, family and community. If you grieve as a normalizer, you focus on cultivating the relationships you have so that you can recreate or regain who and what you have lost.

I believe that this is the way that I grieved because my focus shifted from my career to focusing on nurturing the relationships in my life. I realized that there is much more to life than having a successful career, and I prioritized my personal life over that part.

4. Activists

A person who grieves by becoming an activist will try to use this loss to help those who are struggling through the same thing, usually by educating and empathizing with people. Whether it’s from a terminal illness or acts of violence, an activist will go out of their way to help them.

Losses from tragedies such as cancer, domestic violence or bullying, among others, may trigger the person grieving to contribute to making people aware of the dangers of the action. They can also look to promote other proactive ways to handle or to prevent it from getting worse or from happening.

You can start by joining a group that focuses on the cause of your loss, and be involved by contributing in different ways. Down the line, you can go big and start your own foundation specifically dedicated to your loved one.

5. Seekers

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A person who grieves by being a seeker usually reflects a lot their morals and beliefs, and looks into getting more connected through spiritual, philosophical or religious beliefs. They do this in order to create or find meaning in their lives.

I already had religious beliefs and had been attending church before I broke things off with my then-boyfriend, but I delved more deeply into them after the breakup and did a lot of self-reflecting on who I was and what I needed to do in order to choose my next boyfriend more wisely. It helped me to refocus and redefine my beliefs, not only as a Christian but also as a person.

If you don’t belong to a spiritual or religious community yet and you want this kind of connection, do your research, go to a meeting or a service and interact with the members to determine whether or not it’d be right for you. If you have established beliefs already, revisit and redefine them.

Grieving is a healthy process that you will and should go through after a loss, and there is no right way to grieve. Being educated on the different ways people grieve will help you to find a healthy way to process this tragic time of loss in your life.

How do you cope and grieve with loss? Do you grieve through any of these ways? Share your story and thoughts with us in the comment section!

A Mental Workout That Will Boost Your Energy, Starting Today – Youqueen

A physical workout regime should be paired with a mental workout that leans on the mind-body connection and heals both, simultaneously. Here are some mind-nourishing, mental health-boosting exercises that you can start today and start reaping the benefits immediately.


The form of this meditative state is up to you. Whatever floats your boat is fine, as long as you ensure that you quiet your mind and refrain from verbal expression – yes, we mean talking – for 30 to 60 minutes a day.

You may choose a more active version, such as a quiet walk, or opt for this type of mental cleanse:

Pick a quiet spot and try being physically still – you may sit down or lie down, it’s up to you – for 15 to 30 minutes. Do not worry about your thoughts. They will come, many in fact, but your goal here is to accept them and not feel burdened by them. That is all. Concentrate on the quiet and lack of movement. Breathe normally.

Once you’ve done this exercise a few times and have become comfortable with the soothing effect it’ll have on your mind, spruce it up by asking for a moment of clarity, once you exit your quiet space.

Before entering your quiet zone, make a mental note to yourself that you would like to have a certain area of your life highlighted and your ‘next move’ brought to your attention, once your daily mental cleanse is completed.

The results will astound you.

Thanks… thanks a lot!

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It’s all about the Gratitude Attitude.

Yes, the very one where you fully connect with sense of gratitude for the many blessings that you have in your life: from the air you breathe to the food in your refrigerator to that new, amazing designer dress you’ve been yearning for and is now sitting in your closet.

The idea here is to squeeze out the negative thoughts from you mind, by filling it with positive ones, which feeling grateful produces. While you should feel grateful at all times, the best way to initiate this exercise is to have a little thanks-moment in the morning as you awake and at night, before you get ready to catch some Zzz’s. Once this becomes your routine, you will find yourself having gratitude-filled thoughts throughout the day which will not only make you feel good, but will improve your physical and mental state for the long haul.

See it, believe it, be it!

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This is quite a powerful tool.

The first notion to grasp when it comes to visualizations, is that your mind in a tool, but you are not your mind.

Visualization is a technique that relies on self-hypnosis to help foster healing based on positive images and self-suggestion. The goal here is to have these self-projected images affect our mind and body in a positive manner, through to all-powerful mind-body connection.

Pick a comfortable position, either sitting or lying down, and ensure that you feel safe and undisturbed.

Relax your thoughts and your breathing and concentrate on the rhythm of your breaths, as you allow yourself to enter a sort of daydream state, where you will visualize your desired goal, state of being, an episode of your own life that you wish would occur. Do so as vividly as you possibly can. Feel the textures, smell the scents that surround you and, most importantly, feel the sensations and the emotions that are propelled by this visualized state of your subconscious. Let this wishful thinking trip work its magic as you allow yourself to feel its benefits as you are living it out in your mind.

While you’re doing this, your hypothalamus, (the part of your brain that links your nervous and your endocrine systems, thus controlling your body temperature, hunger, blood sugar levels, adrenal and pituitary glands, heart, lung, digestive and circulatory systems) acts as a transformer of emotions into a physical response.

So, you are visualizing something that packs a positive emotional punch, which you allow yourself to feel with every fiber of your being. Your brain picks up on these emotions and channels them into a physical response via its many connections to your body. This is what creates the mind-body connection and lets it fulfill its full potential of boosting your immune system, your energy levels, your self-confidence and foster an overall well-balanced state of your being.

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When It Is Okay To Say ‘no’ – And How To Make It Stick – Youqueen

This is one area where a lot of women struggle. We feel the need to always say ‘yes’, no matter what the cost.

You need someone to pick up an extra shift at work? No problem. You’d like another board member on the PTA? Sure. I’ve got time. You want a ride to the moon and back? Let me check my schedule. Yep. I’m available.

While it’s great to try to help friends and family out in their time of need, what is usually the end result?

They are the ones with the smile on their face because you’ve lightened their load, but you’re left with additional stress and anxiety trying to figure out how to fit just one more thing into your already packed schedule.

Certainly, you can’t say ‘no’ to everything that is asked of you, but there are times that it’s not only okay, but extremely beneficial. These times include:

When there’s nothing in it for you

How many times have you committed to doing something that served you no benefit whatsoever? Once? Twice? Twenty times? Not that you should only do things that are advantageous to you, but if you’re on the fence on this type of decision, if there isn’t anything in it for you then you may want to let it go.

When you’re not committed to something and feel that you won’t gain in any way by doing it, it becomes just another obligation. It adds stress and anxiety to your life with no positive feelings whatsoever.

However, if you feel that you benefit in some way by saying ‘yes’, then maybe you should do it. Perhaps you’ll feel good by helping a friend out or agreeing to do it will make you step outside of your comfort zone, thereby allowing you to grow and evolve.

When it does you more harm than good

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If something is harmful to you, by all means don’t agree to do it. This would include anything that threatens your physical health or that could put you in harm’s way. However, it’s not always easy to see when something is that detrimental to you.

This is especially true in cases where it is harmful to you mentally as opposed to physically. Maybe agreeing to do something will cause you so much added stress that other areas of your life will suffer, or perhaps it would force you to cut something else out that is more important (like attending your child’s sports events or not being around at night for quality time with your family).

You need to look at the big picture of what someone is asking you before you just agree to it.

Sure, maybe being involved in an organization that meets every Wednesday for an hour doesn’t seem like a big deal, but it is if it involves also putting in 5-10 hours of work per week to prepare for that meeting then you have a bigger time constraint than what you originally thought.

When it isn’t something that is important to you

If your heart isn’t into whatever is being asked of you, you’re going to dread it with every ounce of your body. It will suck the life and energy out of you as sure as if it were a vampire feasting on your blood.

For example, if someone approaches you and requests that you sit on the board at the local animal shelter and you’re not an animal lover, that’s just a recipe for unhappiness.

Your passion isn’t going to be very high, which will not only make the situation less than pleasant, but you’ll also be ineffective because you won’t see the benefits.

How to say “no” and make it stick

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So, if someone asks you to do something and you feel that it meets one or all of these criteria, how do you say “no” in an assertive manner that gets your point across but doesn’t create an awkward situation? Just follow these simple guidelines:

  • Thank them for asking. The first thing you’ll want to do is thank the person for thinking enough of you for asking you to engage in whatever it is they’re asking for. Even if you believe that they’re doing it just to get out of work themselves, a little kindness goes a long way.
  • Ask for time to consider their request. This is extremely helpful if you’re the type of person that says ‘yes’ simply because you can’t think of a reason to say ‘no’ quickly enough. It buys you a little bit of time to formulate your response and makes the requestor feel like you aren’t just shooting him or her down without thought.
  • Explain why it doesn’t work for you at this time. Once you have your reasons for declining in hand, it’s time to let the other person know why you’re going to decline their request. You’re not explaining yourself to seek their approval, but just to help them see why it does not fit into your life to say ‘yes’ at this time. Sometimes if they can see where you’re coming from, that’s all that is necessary to get them to back off.
  • Make it non-negotiable. There are some people that don’t stop at ‘no’ and will try to get you to change your mind. While it may be tempting to try to please them, stick to your ground. Firmly but politely let them know that your answer is non-negotiable. Pretend that you’re talking to your children and don’t let them cross your boundaries.
  • Let go of the guilt. This is probably the worst part about saying ‘no’ as you wind up feeling guilty for letting others down. This is also the number one reason that most people say ‘yes’ when they shouldn’t. Look at it this way: Would you want someone to agree to do something for you purely out of guilt? Probably not. And, most likely, the person that is asking you wouldn’t want you to do that either.

Saying ‘no’ can be hard at first, but it’s also the first step to saying ‘yes’ to yourself. Don’t give up your happiness just so that others have an easy life. You’re entitled to your joy too. And, sometimes that joy comes by saying “No thank you”.

5 Things Your First Job Will Teach You That College Never Did

First job out of college? There are some things only real life experience can teach you!

From finding your group of lifelong friends to teaching you how to stay out until 5 a.m. and go to class at 8 a.m. to somehow morphing you into an adult fit for the real world, college is definitely four of the most important years of your life. In those four short years, you transform from an excited, nervous 18-year old into someone with plans and goals for a future.

But, in between your final class and your first job, you need to learn some skills that college just can’t give you. There’s no class that tells you how to dress for an interview or how to act at a meeting, and so many other things that we soon realize are imperative for the working world.

Here are 5 lessons you’ll learn from experience at your first “real” job that college won’t teach you.

1. How to be a Morning Person (Even If You’re Really, REALLY Not)


Are you more of a night owl than a morning person? College made that easy, even if you had to get out of bed and into a class by 8 a.m. You could put on whatever you found in your closet and go, participate or not and then take a nap if you had the time. At least grab a coffee on your way out.

Sadly, a job doesn’t offer those same simplicities. Sleeping at your desk is not as inconspicuous as in a classroom or even a library. You’ll likely have tons of work to keep you busy, none of which you can sleep through.

Your first job will teach you to get up at the sound of your alarm rather than rolling over, and how to get ready at a speed that allows you to stop for that precious coffee and still make it to your desk on time ready to face the day and your responsibilities.

2. Office Politics

Not everyone is going to be nice, and not everyone is going to like you. For me, that was one of the hardest changes to make. I’ve always been a fairly well-liked person; so, walking into my first job, I expected to be cordial with my co-workers at the very least. However, I was in for a pretty nasty surprise.

Some people just don’t want to be bothered with you, or will go out of their way to make your day harder than it needs to be. I’m not saying you’ll walk into a boo that’s Miranda Priestly-esque, but be prepared, just in case, and remember not to take it personally!

3. How to Dress to Win


“Dress for the job you want, not the job you have” is a cliched saying, but one that definitely rings true. Your first job might not be your dream job. For most of us, it probably isn’t. There’s a lot of work to be done first! Building up a work wardrobe should be towards the top of the list.

First impressions are important, so you don’t want to show up to your first day of work (or an interview!) looking like you just rolled out of bed. Look professional, and that will start everything off on the right foot. You’ll feel more confident, you’ll look more than capable of doing the job you came for and you’ll be moving up the chain in no time.

To start, get some business-casual essentials: black pants, comfortable heels and pencil skirts if that’s up your alley. Add a blazer and a structured bag and you’re on your way!

4. How to Make the Absolute Most of Your Free Time

Working 9-5 doesn’t leave much time for activities. Having a structured schedule has its perks though! When you do have downtime, at night or on the weekends, you’ll want to make the most of it. See your friends, hit the gym—do all the things you used to find so much time for. Luckily, the less time you have for something, the more you come to appreciate what time you do have. And there’s always your lunch hour!

5. How to Make the Most of a Commute


Smashing yourself into a packed train/subway/bus or into a car to sit in traffic is never going to be a fun thing to do.

You’ll have to get up earlier, make sure you’re at the stop on time or early, just in case, and then you’ll have to keep yourself entertained. Sitting in traffic? Try a podcast—there are tons out there, so there’s guaranteed to be one that fits your interest.

These work for packed trains too. If you’re more of a reader, the train or subway is the perfect time to knock out that book you’ve been reading. These small things will make the commute so much more pleasant that you’ll almost find yourself looking forward to it.

Landing your first job is exciting and terrifying and a major lifestyle change for new grads. There are tons of things to learn, both on the job and off, but there are just some things you have to experience to learn them. From getting up in the morning to your commute home, you’ll learn as you go how to make the most of your days!